Does sex hurt the first time? Your questions answered No Discharge or Lubrication During Sex FPA Women's Health Pain during sex is common, but that doesn't mean it's normal. Many women silently tolerate discomfort because they think maybe my body is like this or it'll get better with time. But Sex should never hurt but if it does, youre not alone., Occasional discomfort can be caused by things like low lubrication, anxiety, postpartum changes, or even your first time. But persistent,